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[cancer] Field notes from Cancerland, income tax week edition - Lakeshore
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Jay Lake
Date: 2013-04-17 05:52
Subject: [cancer] Field notes from Cancerland, income tax week edition
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Tags:awards, cancer, child, conventions, family, friends, health, personal, travel
Appointments

Things feel complicated right now. (With good reason, I might add.) In addition to my CT scan on 5/7 and my oncology appointment on 5/8, I have an appointment with my primary care physician on 5/10 to discuss the implications of liver failure, and what kind of planning we can do. I'm told by Reliable Sources that one of the best uses of a written care plan is to remind the patient of decisions they made when their head was clear. Irrational behavior and cognitive deficits are a common feature of progressive liver failure. To that same end, we have requested an appointment with the oncology department's staff nutritionist to talk about the kinds of food choices that can help my liver the most as it degrades, while also being compatible with chemotherapy nutrition guidelines. Even if I somehow squeak past the current round of issues without hitting the end game, all these factors will apply soon enough.

JayCon

The timing of JayCon XIII (June 15th) is such that if we hit a terminal diagnosis next month, I may reconfigure the event to be my pre-mortem wake. That will require some serious logistical thinking, including possibly a hotel contract, which may in turn be impossible to get on such short notice. We shall see. The longer I wait, the harder it will be to plan such an event.

Whole Genome Sequencing

I have a phone consultation later this week with the computational biology consultancy who are performing the clinical analysis and recommendations for the Whole Genome Sequencing. I truly do not know what to expect. My hope is that we identify some alternate treatment paths that might buy me life extension for a year or two. I think we've slid well past the tipping point of being able to cure me — certainly that's the overwhelming medical evidence. This might come to nought, it might be significant. Once again, I want to thank everyone who made this possible.

Awards Ceremonies

We've decided to bring [info]the_child to the Nebula Awards ceremony. This is being accomplished in large part through the significant good offices of Crystal Black. I've also been talking to the Hugo Awards ceremony coordinator about what to do if I cannot make it to San Antonio this ceremony. My suggestion was to have [info]the_child be my acceptor, and possibly also present the Campbell tiara as my representative. That latter is not up to me at all, but I certainly can designate her as my acceptor. My concerns about me not making to San Antonio will depend largely on how my immune system reacts to whatever treatment I go on with this latest round of metastasis. I can fight my way through even pathological exhaustion, but only if I can get on a plane without fearing for my life.

People Doing Things

An author friend recently sent me a story that was a sort of love letter about cancer, writing and death. Another writer sent me an impassioned handwritten note about the friendship they regret we will never be able to fully develop. An online acquaintance did some hilarious art. People are doing things which touch my heart, make me weep and make me smile. This is good. This is also very strange. There's a part of me that keeps expecting to wake up from the nightmare. To discover it's all been a horrible mistake and I am fine. The words and deeds of others help keep me centered and sane.

Death Head

I'm acquiring what I've privately dubbed "death head". That is to say, the imminent reality of my cancer's end game is becoming far more real to me. In point of fact, this has been the case since the rather grim January surgical outcomes. It's just this new evidence of elevated CEA levels has propelled me into the next stage of my emotional journey. In effect, I am learning how to die. And I'm trying to teach the people around me how to help me die. This pops up in almost every aspect of my life, and I'm far from having a handle on it. I'll be discussing death head more over the coming weeks and months. For now, suffice to say I'm rapidly evolving a very different outlook on life, my personal priorities, and what's important enough to require my commitment of attention and resources.

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a_cubed
User: a_cubed
Date: 2013-04-17 13:32 (UTC)
Subject: Re: Death Head
I'm reminded of the old short story "Learning to be Me".
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kit
User: mizkit
Date: 2013-04-17 13:34 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
The "people doing things" aspect reminds me that once upon a time you and I discussed the idea of doing Stunt Writing together--a book in a week, written in the front window of Borderlands, or some such.

I'd love to still do that, either with someone else or on my own, for you. I know the last thing you need is something else to think about, but if there's any particular story you might want told, let me know?
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joycemocha
User: joycemocha
Date: 2013-04-17 14:21 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Learning to die is a hard process, for the person experiencing it and for those around them.

Hugs.
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asakiyume: feathers on the line
User: asakiyume
Date: 2013-04-17 14:52 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:feathers on the line
I am very, very happy to be in the landscape of your friends, acquaintances, and supporters. You have your dearest loved ones, and then your good friends, and then all those whom you've worked and had fun with but know less well, and then people like me--I like that. Everyone should have a complete world around them, like that.
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mlerules: Maypole
User: mlerules
Date: 2013-04-17 17:19 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:Maypole
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