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Jay Lake
Date: 2007-11-13 18:40
Subject: [personal] Why anonymous comments are moderated
Security: Public
Location:Omaha
Mood:amused
Music:not much
Tags:child, funny, lj, personal
I'm getting anonymous trollishness over at the missile silo post. This one, which I have not unmasked in the thread, I will quote here for its sheer silliness:
Dangerous Daddy:

Have to agree with the other posters about the unnecessary risk, self-centred arrogance and pointless transference of your own childhood fears onto an innocent child. You're a grown-up now, try and be a more positive role model. Oh . . . and get a haircut.


:: laughing ::
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Bibbit: bibbitkira
User: bridget_coila
Date: 2007-11-14 03:01 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:bibbitkira
How obnoxious! Wish I knew who it was so I could go throw a drink in their face (because although you see it in movies, no one every really does it in person...)

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ellen datlow
User: ellen_datlow
Date: 2007-11-14 03:17 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Actually I did it once to a former beau. And I have a friend who did it at intermission of a play when she caught her live-in boyfriend with another woman. So it really does happen!
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catsparx
User: catsparx
Date: 2007-11-14 03:04 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
I dug your missile silo post. And also, never get a haircut.
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Jay Lake: jay-windblown
User: jaylake
Date: 2007-11-14 03:04 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:jay-windblown
You know it. I'm too damned old to grow it out *again*.
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Leah Bobet
User: leahbobet
Date: 2007-11-14 03:12 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh, man. I was just saying to someone earlier today how I wish they'd never put comments back on BoingBoing? Because then I could pretend that the readers there were intellectual, polite--

Yes, well. :p
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Danny Adams
User: madwriter
Date: 2007-11-14 03:23 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Yeah, and wear shirts that are less colorful and more serious, and what's with all this "speculative" stuff you're writing, and are you SERIOUSLY encouraging The Child to express herself creatively? Don't you know that artists never make money? Tell her to go get a real job! ;)
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User: n5red
Date: 2007-11-14 03:26 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Leave the hair, but do something about that awful beard...
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Jay Lake
User: jaylake
Date: 2007-11-14 03:35 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Everybody's a critic...
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jtdiii
User: jtdiii
Date: 2007-11-14 03:42 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
You are however wearing less orange...

It's a win. :)


(ducking for cover...)
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robvagle
User: robvagle
Date: 2007-11-14 04:02 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Dude! I love the hair!
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Jess Nevins
User: ratmmjess
Date: 2007-11-14 04:04 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh . . . and get a haircut.

It's always fun when the bald guys get jealous of those of us with hair, isn't it?
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paulcarp
User: paulcarp
Date: 2007-11-14 04:54 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
It's always fun when the bald guys get jealous of those of us with hair, isn't it?

Not really, no.

Jay, cut your hair if you like, don't if you don't like, and keep taking your daughter to "unnecessary risk" and wonderful adventures.
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Camille Picott
User: camillemulan
Date: 2007-11-14 04:06 (UTC)
Subject: Love the locks!
Some people clearly have no taste when it comes to hair. Humph.
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J.K.Richárd: digital alchemist
User: neutronjockey
Date: 2007-11-14 04:07 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:digital alchemist
Have to agree with the other posters about the unnecessary risk

Right, because more children are injured during missle silo visits each year than children riding in automobiles...

self-centred arrogance

I don't know Jay personally but from reading his journal I can tell you that Mr. Lake does not have a narcissistic streak. I would consider Jay one of the least egocentric people I know on the virtual front.

and pointless transference of your own childhood fears onto an innocent child.

Excellent point again, because it is pointless to expose a child to history and icons from the Cold War culture and mentality. It is best to keep them innocent by treating them as mushrooms: keep them in the dark and feed them shit. This way they grow up to be exactly like this commenter.

You're a grown-up now, try and be a more positive role model.

Writers are required by nature to look at the world as children, perhaps in this sense you are right that Jay will never quite fully "grow-up."
As far as a "positive role model" is concerned one thing that Mr. Lake can show you is how practice, patience, and persistence pays off (the royalties aren't much but it does.eventually.pay.off.)
As far as being a father is concerned -woe be it me as a non-father to critique parenting. However having once been someone's kid let me say this: Jay Lake is doing the things with his child that I wished my parents had done with me.

Oh . . . and get a haircut.
You can't stand on a pedestal to judge someone and toss in sophomoric "I've got the last word in"-MySpace style commentary and maintain credibility as a critic.

In other words: You suck dude.
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Cat Hellisen
User: cathellisen
Date: 2007-11-14 04:28 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Wow.

If people are going to stand up and criticise others, they should at least have the courage to put their name to it and not hide behind the shield of the anon-comment.

And my husband get the hair thing all the time too. As if some random person coming up and saying "You should cut your hair," is going to make him suddenly change his way of looking and thinking about himself and run off to the barbers.

I do wonder why it seems to be acceptable to say this. I generally refrain from going up to strangers and making comments about their personal appearance, but men with long hair seem to be fair game.
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S. Boyd Taylor
User: sboydtaylor
Date: 2007-11-14 21:27 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
If people are going to stand up and criticise others, they should at least have the courage to put their name to it and not hide behind the shield of the anon-comment.

Here here.

Adventure is the spice of life. Good for you, for taking your daughter to see such neat things! :)
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Lisa Deutsch Harrigan
User: lisa_marli
Date: 2007-11-14 04:35 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Grow UP?!? Gawd I hope not! We would lose Jay Lake! That is too horrible a thought.
And the hair is fun.
You are actually a thinking role model. Which is what you did at the silo. You explored carefully and explained what it was and why it was there and the history of it. Sounds about right to me.
That person needs a life - Preferably more like... Yours!
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User: joycemocha
Date: 2007-11-14 04:46 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
???

Geez. What a maroon.

Nukes still exist among us, and are as much a threat to our survival as ever. My parents downplayed the threat during the Cold War--my husband and I took the opposite track, and while we never took the kid to a missile silo (what coolness!), we did take him to Hanford, and toured the Hanford museum.

I guess said poster would think I'm an awful teacher because I read Ellen Klages's _Green Glass Sea_ to my students. Such emotional scarring. Such--exposure to casual talk about smoking cigarettes and drinking (I actually did get a critique of doing that from a social worker!). However, I do know that it provoked thoughtful comments from the students, and engaged their interest.

Then again, thinking. That's dangerous stuff, y'know.
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Twilight: GoneMad
User: twilight2000
Date: 2007-11-14 04:54 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:GoneMad
Yea, Mr. Negative ;> Wow -- now *there's a guy who REALLY knows you!

BWA-HA-HA!
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J Erwine - writer/editor
User: jerwine
Date: 2007-11-14 05:32 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
There's nothing wrong with teaching your children about this stuff, as long as they're old enough to take it in, which I would say she is.

As far as the hair, hell no, don't cut it...of course this is coming from a guy who's hair is about the same length as yours...

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