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Jay Lake
Date: 2009-12-23 18:32
Subject: [cancer] More sex, and other mysteries
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Tags:calendula, cancer, health, personal, religion, sex
Just spoke to the chemo nurse. I have been advised that due to me being on 5-FU (Fluorouracil), condoms are absolutely required for any relevant sexual act during chemo and for three months afterward. The drugs involved are too disruptive to risk passing on to my sex partners via my ejaculate. Also due to my immunocompromised status, I cannot perform oral sex without a dental dam, as the consequences of me contracting a bacterial infection are severe. This is not surprising, but it does not please me.

In other news, thanks to a prompting from a friend of calendula_witch, I queried about EMLA, an anaesthetic cream that's applied to the skin above the chest port an hour or so prior to the needle being set. The nurse said, "Well, that's a good idea. It will cut down quite a bit on your incidental pain." Which made me wonder why they didn't prescribe it proactively. She also indicated that I can continue physical therapy while under chemo, with no particular cautions. So my shoulder will progress further.

In other news, I'm mulling a post on cancer, stress and my atheism. It seems to need to be discussed — even my clinic is advising me to support my spiritual side through my faith, which seems to considerably privilege religious belief. I'm not planning to make an issue of it there, not at all, just wanting to answer the implied question, which was explicitly voiced by an acquaintance who recently commented, "I just don't understand how you can do this without faith in God."

That definitely deserves a thoughtful response.

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scarlettina: Wonder
User: scarlettina
Date: 2009-12-24 06:41 (UTC)
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I think it's interesting that the clinic is advising you to support your spiritual side through faith, mainly because my encounter with my mother's cancer pushed me firmly away from the belief in God for decades. I still had a spiritual side, but it was nebulous and undirected and, in that way, fairly useless. What restored any kind of directed faith at all for me was the people around me years and years later.

I'm looking forward to reading your thoughts on the subject.
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