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[cancer] More sex, and other mysteries - Lakeshore
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Jay Lake
Date: 2009-12-23 18:32
Subject: [cancer] More sex, and other mysteries
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Tags:calendula, cancer, health, personal, religion, sex
Just spoke to the chemo nurse. I have been advised that due to me being on 5-FU (Fluorouracil), condoms are absolutely required for any relevant sexual act during chemo and for three months afterward. The drugs involved are too disruptive to risk passing on to my sex partners via my ejaculate. Also due to my immunocompromised status, I cannot perform oral sex without a dental dam, as the consequences of me contracting a bacterial infection are severe. This is not surprising, but it does not please me.

In other news, thanks to a prompting from a friend of calendula_witch, I queried about EMLA, an anaesthetic cream that's applied to the skin above the chest port an hour or so prior to the needle being set. The nurse said, "Well, that's a good idea. It will cut down quite a bit on your incidental pain." Which made me wonder why they didn't prescribe it proactively. She also indicated that I can continue physical therapy while under chemo, with no particular cautions. So my shoulder will progress further.

In other news, I'm mulling a post on cancer, stress and my atheism. It seems to need to be discussed — even my clinic is advising me to support my spiritual side through my faith, which seems to considerably privilege religious belief. I'm not planning to make an issue of it there, not at all, just wanting to answer the implied question, which was explicitly voiced by an acquaintance who recently commented, "I just don't understand how you can do this without faith in God."

That definitely deserves a thoughtful response.

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Twilight: I know (Marguerite)
User: twilight2000
Date: 2009-12-24 07:54 (UTC)
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Keyword:I know (Marguerite)
hmm - sounds like it might be time to look into "equipment" - rather than trying to imitate something you (and presumably your partners) enjoy in a less than satisfying manner, perhaps this is an opportunity to try "something new"?

Viva le Différence!
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Jay Lake
User: jaylake
Date: 2009-12-24 12:09 (UTC)
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I am in fct quite flexible in regard to such things. I just like the basics, too. A lot...
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Twilight
User: twilight2000
Date: 2009-12-24 18:59 (UTC)
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*nod* Basics are good - but if you *must* have h'or dourves and desert, it should at least be interesting ones :>.
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