Jay Lake (jaylake) wrote,
Jay Lake
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[cancer] Life's problems, department of other people

I've said before, cancer is a social disease. It affects everyone around me in ways I cannot even begin to count. I keep running into this with my friends, family and loved ones. I've had people say to me, "Wow, I feel lousy with the flu — Oh, wait, you have cancer, never mind."

To which my response is always, "And? My cancer doesn't make your flu any less unpleasant."

Flu, work issues, indigestion, divorce, health, life issues. Stuff happens to us. My life isn't yours, yours isn't mine, and whatever's up with you isn't any less important or troublesome just because I'm down inside the chemotherapy meat grinder.

It's something I hang on to, for my sense of normal. That everyone else's life goes on, good, bad and indifferent. My cancer doesn't devalue your experience. Your experience enhances mine. It's such a simple, difficult thing.

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