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Jay Lake
Date: 2010-07-19 18:18
Subject: [cancer] I have seen the future, brother, and it is murder
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Tags:books, calendula, cancer, child, endurance, health, kalimpura, personal, sunspin, work, writing
calendula_witch and I had the post-chemo oncology followup appointment this morning. Everything was running late, as happens, but finally when the oncologist (and the resident) came in, they did not look happy. My oncologist reported that Friday's CT scan was "very surprising."

While on the FOLFOX/Avastin chemotherapy regime, my body managed to develop a new metastasis, specifically a 2.9 x 2.4 cm lesion in the left lobe of my liver. That's a tumor the size of a large olive in less than eight months, growing in the face of assault by some of the nastier drugs in our pharmakon.

Next step is a PET scan tomorrow. I always do enjoy a visit to the Department of Giant Radioactive Spiders, and any medicine that comes in a lead-lined box and a tungsten-jacketed syringe has got to be good for me, right?

After that I'll have a pre-operative consultation with the liver surgeon my oncologist thinks is the best in the area. About four to six weeks from now, I'll have the tumor removed. That surgery will happen in late August or early September.

Unless something very unexpectedly arises from the post-operative pathology, about four weeks after that, I'll start six months of a new chemotherapy regime, FOLFIRI. That's a similar mix to what I just finished up with, except instead of Oxaliplatin, the cocktail will include Irinotecan. This will be tougher, more severe chemo, because clearly the cancer cells in my body laugh at danger and sneer at medical intervention. I'm told Irinotecan doesn't cause the peripheral neuropathy problems that Oxaliplatin does, but that I can expect more severe lower GI distress and greater hair loss.

Oh, boy, an intensification of my toilet-based lifestyle! On the plus side, the damned peripheral neuropathy can taper off over time without intensifying. And I already have this convenient chest port.

Open issues right now include the timing of the surgery. If I went with the oncologist's timeline, I'd have to cancel the trip calendula_witch and I are making to New Zealand and Australia. Which may need to happen depending on medical necessity and their sense of urgency. Obviously this tumor is aggressive, to have developed under such adverse circumstances.

Likewise, I have to do some time management at work. I've already burned all my sick hours for the year on chemo this spring, so I may need to cancel the trip simply to accumulate sufficient paid days off for this fall's chemo. We do have a Short Term Disability benefit at work, which I'm going to investigate the possibility of taking. That will also allow to me to work a bit less through the later stages of the chemo cycle, which is probably wise given how tough the last one was. I have to talk to HR anyway about FMLA paperwork and such like. That process will start tomorrow, after the PET scan.

Financial impact will be pretty meaningful, too. My direct out-of-pocket through my insurance company is $4,000 per plan year. I've already burned through that, so at least the 20% hospital co-pay for the surgery won't hit my wallet. But the second half of chemo will be in the next plan year, so there's a decent chunk of change. My indirect costs are another $6,000 a year or so, meaning, money I wouldn't be spending if I didn't have cancer; that extends into 2011 now. This isn't killing me financially, but it's stretching me pretty thin.

Another thing I'm thinking hard about is long-term health and survival. Having a second met so hard on top of the last one certainly affects my mortality statistics in a meaningfully adverse way. (Translation: "ZOMG, I'm going to die!") I continue to see this cancer as treatable and survivable, but damn is it aggressive. Not to mention I will wind up spending 12 out of 15 months on chemo. This is serious damage to my quality of life, and a challenge to mid- and long-term planning.

It's also screwing up my writing schedule something awful. I will make revised deadline on Endurance, and I will make deadline on Kalimpura, but as a result of these two chemo series, Sunspin has been pushed back an entire year from my original work plan, and my incidental output of short fiction has been crimped. This is already having further negative financial and career visibility impact on me now, which will only deepen with a new, tougher round of this nonsense.

I'm pretty unhappy about not being able to get back to normal. Just about the time I expect my energy to return to something like its pre-chemo state, I'll be back into another round of surgery and chemotherapy. Basically, this means I'll go about 16 months without much of my real life. And that assumes I come out of the other end of this cycle without yet a further disaster.

Finally, and most importantly, the_child is taking this very hard. I won't say more, for the sake of her privacy, but that is breaking my heart. The effect on my family as a whole is pretty depressing, but she most of all.

All three of my cancer experiences have been surprising in various ways. The original diagnosis came when I was over twenty years younger than average for this cancer. The first metastasis wasn't supposed to happen, given the staging and general circumstances of my primary cancer. The second metastasis quite visibly shocked my oncologist. I'm the opposite of a medical miracle.

Emotionally, I have barely begun to process this, any more than the people around me have. I'm angry, devastated, depressed, frustrated, frightened. You name it. The assassin in my gut has come back for another try, with a vengeance.

I will fight, because there is nothing else to do, but damn am I tired of this.

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User: nancymcc
Date: 2010-07-20 04:13 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Jay, this news is just so hard to accept. It makes me wish for a way to take up arms against the continuing invasion of your world. I'm rooting for the medical crew who will help you fight. There are many ways that you and your nearest family are in this alone, but in so many more ways you have a whole civilization and a whole lot of individuals on your side.
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User: quantuminsanity
Date: 2010-07-20 04:23 (UTC)
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I was thinking of you today and hoping for a good outcome. I'm so sorry it didn't happen that way.

Fuck Cancer!
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User: hkneale
Date: 2010-07-20 04:29 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Aw Jay, you poor kid! My heart really goes out to you. It's a shame that you don't get a breather between it all.

I'll be sorry to not see you at WorldCon, should it come to that.
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Michael Curry: brutal
User: mcurry
Date: 2010-07-20 04:30 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
The long string of obscenities being uttered by your friends, family and loved ones at this news are definitely appropriate.


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User: mondyboy
Date: 2010-07-20 04:30 (UTC)
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User: deborahjross
Date: 2010-07-20 04:36 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Jay, I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones.
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Jennifer Brozek
User: jennifer_brozek
Date: 2010-07-20 04:47 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh man. I wish to goodness I could do something to help. All I can do is cheer from the sidelines. But, if there is something else I can do, let me know.

Add me to the list of people who can come and spend time helping you after a round with chemo. I've read what you've gone through and the assistance you need.
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Debbie N.
User: wild_irises
Date: 2010-07-20 05:41 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh, Jay!

I hope the universe cuts you as many breaks in the future as it has cut you bad cards up until now. Count me among the multitudes thinking of you and rooting for you.
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User: norilana
Date: 2010-07-20 06:00 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Wishing you absolute strength and healing.

You HAVE it within you, the ability to fight.

And you are not alone -- not with so many who love you and whom you love, in your life.

Hang in there, friend!!! You are unbeatable.
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User: lil_shepherd
Date: 2010-07-20 06:15 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Jay, I am so sorry to hear this. I don't know you personally, but I deeply admire your courage and honesty.

Hang on in there. If will and courage count for anything (and, oddly, they do affect the body to some extent) you and the doctors can beat this.
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Lisa Deutsch Harrigan: St Mongos
User: lisa_marli
Date: 2010-07-20 07:16 (UTC)
Subject: F*ck Cancer!
Keyword:St Mongos
I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you do fight it off much better than any doctor thought you could.
*hugs* to you and everyone in your life.
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Anna Feruglio Dal Dan
User: annafdd
Date: 2010-07-20 08:01 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
I am so sorry, Jay. I can't even imagine how you feel. Saying that I am shocked and devastated on your behalf doesn't really help, but, well, I am. Lots of hugs to you and your daughter. :-(
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User: mapescapacity
Date: 2010-07-20 09:19 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Sorry to hear about this. Will continue thinking of you and hoping for the best outcome.
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Kari Sperring
User: la_marquise_de_
Date: 2010-07-20 09:27 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh no. I am so sorry. Fuck cancer sidewise with a rusty bandsaw.
And if there is anything at all I can do, just say the word.
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