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Jay Lake
Date: 2010-11-18 15:04
Subject: [cancer] Just when you thought it was safe...
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Tags:cancer, health, personal
Under cut for digestive and medical TMI. You were warned.

I'm not kidding...


Sometimes the cancer stuff reaches out and taps me on the shoulder. Just to remind me that everything is not okay. Had a major lower GI failure today that resulted in three trips to the toilet, a load of laundry and a shower.


Kind of like being two years old again.

And there's nothing so disempowering and humiliating as loss of bowel control. I have to remember not to trust what I'm feeling down there, ever. I've just been lulled by almost a month of (for me) normal lower GI behavior.

Damned discouraging stuff.

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Brent "Chip" Edwards
User: chipuni
Date: 2010-11-18 23:16 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh, Jay... I'm so sorry.

That's not a fun symptom.
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Kari Sperring
User: la_marquise_de_
Date: 2010-11-18 23:22 (UTC)
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I'm very sorry.
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Chang...  just Chang.
User: chang3002
Date: 2010-11-18 23:40 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Ah, that sucks. I'm sorry, too. Have you looked into any kind of exercises or something that could help regain bowel control? I know some yoga helps with intestinal issues of all types form incontinence to constipation. Not sure about what cancer adds to the mix.
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User: mariadeira
Date: 2010-11-18 23:58 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
And there's nothing so disempowering and humiliating as loss of bowel control.

I've been there and I'm so sorry.
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User: alumiere
Date: 2010-11-21 20:54 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
This ^. I hate it too.
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User: autopope
Date: 2010-11-19 00:12 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
This is what I'm hearing from my dad. (Who had his surgery two weeks ago, came out of hospital a week ago, and is due back in for more radiotherapy in three weeks time ...)
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Richard Parks
User: ogre_san
Date: 2010-11-19 00:39 (UTC)
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User: martianmooncrab
Date: 2010-11-19 00:54 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
"its not always gas"
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D Kai Wilson
User: kaiberie
Date: 2010-11-19 13:39 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
I don't have cancer, so don't take this as jumping on the bandwagon, but I don't have a gall bladder and sometimes that even happens to me - some very unlucky souls never get 'normal' again, which means its easier for it to happen. I was told it was one in a million, most people adjust. I didn't. Sometimes it just *does*.
I'm sorry though, you're right, it's discouraging. Once it happened while I was out in public, at Uni. Boy, that was a fun day.
I hope today is more productive and less upsetting for you though.

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User: barbarienne
Date: 2010-11-19 16:06 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
If it's any consolation, my mom's had that happen. In court. (She's a lawyer.)

She survived, and still deals with the judge and other attorneys who were present. You'll be okay.
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User: goulo
Date: 2010-11-19 18:59 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Flashback to Mike's story and the famous quote "I gambled and lost"...
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Bruce E. Durocher II
User: bedii
Date: 2010-12-29 16:47 (UTC)
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I have had IBS since high school, as well as the health problems you know about. I agree "there's nothing so disempowering and humiliating as loss of bowel control," which I learned in a high school trip to Europe in the middle of the central plaza in Venice: you know, the one with all the pigeons and the glassblowing factories where all the tourists gather? Yes. Fortunately I found a restroom where after you paid the attendant you got a little restroom to yourself, where I could wash out my underwear and pants and try to dry them out on the hand dryer.

Because of this, my viewpoint on social embarrassment is somewhat divergent from most of my friends and in-laws.
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Jay Lake
User: jaylake
Date: 2010-12-29 16:53 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Because of this, my viewpoint on social embarrassment is somewhat divergent from most of my friends and in-laws.

Erm, yes. Still, it sucks. I'm sorry we share this.
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