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Jay Lake
Date: 2012-06-01 05:54
Subject: [personal] Everybody's working for the weekend
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Tomorrow morning, [info]mlerules and Team E— are coming over. We're going to spend most of the weekend sorting and cleaning my basement and garage.

It's become a chamber of horrors down there.

Some of that is due to significant neglect on my part during my bouts of illness these past few years. I pretty much gave up on my basement while dealing with the problems of using the stairs while on chemo. However, most of the problem is my hoarding tendencies. I'm not out of control, Nuevo Rancho Lake is not a garbage house. But let's just say I can see the edge from here.

Simply put, it's very hard for me to throw anything out. It might be useful! It might contain a special memory! Every time I throw something away, a week later I want it for something!

So my friends are going to stand on my toes and force me to think about what needs to be kept and what needs to go. Yes, that thirteen-year-old Sam's Club flat of peanut butter originally bought for Y2K probably doesn't need to be kept. Even I can see that. But what about my fifth grade Little League uniform?

I would love to get it all down to one room's worth of stuff. That will never happen, if nothing else because I have too many family heirlooms and antiques that I can't and won't simply give away. Plus the usual appurtenances of a household, like a dining table and a couch. But I sure could get rid of a lot of what clutters my world and simplify.

If only I could.

So, getting by with a little help from my friends this weekend.

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User: radiantlisa
Date: 2012-06-01 13:18 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
For sentimental items, I highly recommend thinking about whether you need the actual item, or whether a photo would do. For that Little League uniform, could you get someone to frame it and hang it on your wall? Thoughts from the reformed pack-rat ... LOL
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mlerules: L'il Engine That Could
User: mlerules
Date: 2012-06-01 14:49 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:L'il Engine That Could
Just yesterday I took a huge bag o' stuff culled from the Hive's attic w/the recent assistance of T to GoodWill and darn it felt oh-so-good letting it go. Having more space and having it better organized will feel good, even if the process itself feels rough/tough.
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russ: zen
User: goulo
Date: 2012-06-01 15:13 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
FWIW in 2005 I purged literally 99% of my possessions when I moved abroad. It took several months to get rid of it all (you know how much stuff I'd accumulated in that house), but was a quite positive liberating experience in the end... (But of course not something that makes sense for everyone in every life situation.) Still, based on my experience, I would guess that you won't really miss a lot of the stuff you get rid of. At least I didn't.
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User: martianmooncrab
Date: 2012-06-01 17:11 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
a week later I want it for something

..I did use my shopvac for the first time in 6 years this week, it was a good thing I hadnt gotten rid of it.. or the attachments.

I feel your pain, and I dont have a basement!
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Peter Isaac Blanton
User: daedalus_x
Date: 2012-06-01 17:45 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
I get that -- all of it -- I'm the same way. Every time my wife watches the Hoarders: Buried Alive show on TLC, she shoots pointed looks in my direction. And by coincidence, I'm working on cleaning out our storage unit this weekend...
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User: threeoutside
Date: 2012-06-01 18:38 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
It might be useful to mention that scientists studying the hoarder's brain say that there is an actual "decision-making" chemical (DMC, I call it) that starts out high and is steadily chipped away at with each decision. (Maybe it's an enzyme?) After three or four hours (or 15 minutes; everybody's different), it's used up, and if you find yourself standing there with something in your hand that you literally CANNOT decide what to do with, you're probably better off taking a break, getting lunch, maybe a siesta, or at least go do something different for awhile. I've found I have to have a full day of restocking the DMC before I can effectively tackle the pile again.

I haven't yet thought of this process in terms of best timing: tackle the hardest decisions early in the morning, or leave them until later? The former seems best, now that I think on't...

Anyway, FWIW. I'm going through much the same thing at my house. NOT fun.
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User: supersniffles
Date: 2012-06-01 23:16 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Because I can see the hoarderdom from my living room, my mom got me these two books


I found them very helpful. Of course, I failed to maintain my house and now need to do it again. But they were a great start for me.
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Gary Emenitove
User: garyomaha
Date: 2012-06-02 13:39 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
We're there, too. Our problem is how to triage into SAVE, SELL/DONATE, and THROW OUT, and then what to do with the SELL/DONATE pile. M just wants to throw everything out, and I don't.
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