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Jay Lake
Date: 2013-06-10 05:14
Subject: [family|child] On the nature of time and generations
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Dad at 49

That's a photo of my Dad in Outer Mongolia, in 1992, when I and a group of friends and family went to see my parents there. (He was the U.S. ambassador to that country at the time.) Dad was 49 when we visited then. I just turned 49 this past Thursday.

Me at 49

Sometimes when I look at [info]the_child I marvel at how old I have become. Not chronologically, but generationally. I mean, when I went to Outer Mongolia in 1992, Dad was unimaginably older than me. Now, in 2013, he is still unimaginably older than me. We're just all 21 years older than our former selves.

It is the job of parents to go before their children. We break a trail for them through time, setting a path so they have something to rebel against, and if we're lucky, eventually a guide to follow. [info]the_child right now is 15, and filled with that righteous anger at the weakness and venality of pretty much everyone else in the world, an emotion that seems hardwired into being aged 15. Someday she will look back at me and marvel.

The cycle of the generations proves to me that time isn't linear, it's cyclical, at least according to the secret calendars of the soul.

Photos © 1992, 2013, Joseph E. Lake, Jr. and T. Rotundo.

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Clint Harris
User: wendigomountain
Date: 2013-06-10 16:49 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
So he was ambassador to Mongolia at 49, and you are ambassador to the Galactic Empire?
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User: martianmooncrab
Date: 2013-06-10 18:22 (UTC)
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my Dad was 4 days shy of his 73rd birthday when he died, and I will never know what he was going to be when he grew up.
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Elf M. Sternberg
User: elfs
Date: 2013-06-10 18:31 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
There is something wonderful about the juxtaposition of those pictures. He looks a lot like you, true. But he was ambassador to Outer Mongolia and you... you're hanging around with Imperial Powers.
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User: mmegaera
Date: 2013-06-10 20:08 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Wow. Either your parents look a lot alike, or you inherited all your appearance genes from your father.

Outer Mongolia. Cool.
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User: shsilver
Date: 2013-06-10 20:33 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
It is strange to realize that I'm the same age now as my dad was when I introduced him to the girlfriend who became my wife.
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User: mmegaera
Date: 2013-06-11 05:15 (UTC)
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My parents were 53 and 50, respectively, at the time of one of the milestones of my life (I was fourteen when we drove to Alaska and back (from LA)). It's hard for me to think of myself as being older now than they were then. But I am.
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